I think Mrs. Muddle is a jewel, she helps you along.

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As a matter of fact, she is a jewel.

Where I am abstract, cynical and skeptical, she is concrete, optimistic and trusting.

I would, no doubt, spin out of orbit if not for her.

I really did mean that as a compliment- that is what my husband says of me, but honestly I think it's the other way around. So, it's your birthday- how long have you been married? Me- 27 years- hey time flies
when you are having fun.

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In April it will be 33 years.

But before that 1975 wedding we dated for four years.

And before the dating, I had a crush on her for a couple of years. I figured I didn't have a chance, as she was always surrounded by other very interested guys. Lucky for me, they proved to be jerks.

Basically, though, we raised each other as we were still children when we became an "item." It's amazing what happens in such circumstances. Perhaps we both need professional psychological help to cure us of our "codependence." But I honestly, literally, find that, somehow, my own self-concept seamlessly involves my wife. I literally cannot think about "who I am" without finding her mingled in there somewhere.

I actually think that this is how it's supposed to be.

In Good Will Hunting Robin Williams plays a psychology prof who, as a relatively young man, has lost his wife to cancer. At one point, he is asked, "Why have you not remarried?" He replies that he was already married to the only woman he'll ever love. I love this reply. My vow to my wife extends beyond the grave. She is, quite literally, the ONLY love of my life. (Um, and I think I would have more things to say to teens about waiting until marriage than "You could get STDs." I BLESS GOD that neither of us has ever known another person in that way....)

(Oddly, a very dear--but gay--friend recently told us that he wishes that he could have the kind of relationship that we have!)

Is there a reason he couldn't?

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Did you wish Muddle a Happy Birthday- he says he's 50. And he will be married 33 years- way to go MUDDLE! CELEBRATE with some of that mountain music from Asheville where I am from- you like it- I don't.

The secret is you didn't grow up there- if you did you would listen to Michael Jackson.

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It's the little stuff that matters.

Your mind is very young. Congrats on 33yrs. of marriage. Good for you.

I hope the next 50yrs are just as kind to you.

My wife and I met in college in the fall of 1970 and got married in 1975, in April like you. Almost 33 years!

Would you interpret this parallel occurrence in our lives as a Kantian unconditioned cause or a Jungian meaningful coincidence?

And you a liberal!

One hardly believes such things. Everyone knows that the other side has cornered the market on family values.

Congratulations to you, your wife and your family.

Oh, I would say it's definitely that Kantian thing you mentioned. Agent causation, in particular, in the form of people exercising their wills in accordance with both principle and rational emotion.

Hmmm.. rational emotion... hmmmm...

Is there a discrete way to suggest that you don't know my wife very well?

Didn't I tell you? You have wisdom beyond compare.

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That is such a sweet story- I will show my husband when he gets home. To think that you don't care to print it for the world to see says alot.

Stop it with the "Good Will Hunting" bit - it's the same thing my husband said to me- except before "Good Will Hunting" came out.

I did not know my husband in high school, he lived 2 hours from me, he graduated college and moved to Asheville, N.C. and I had a neighbor that worked at a radio station in town and my husband came by the station my neighbor worked one night when I was visiting- that made history- 2 years later Mr.&Mrs. bpr.

I hope that you shared this with your kids- about waiting until marriage besides the std etc. problem. I have with my son. I pray he does listen to me.
I was on the shy side, I got over it- we moved everywhere- radio announcers do that.

I wanted a baby forever- thank God 12 years later- a son- he is my heart- looks just like Dad.

I am honored to know you are faithful- yeah we are the odd bunch also- faithful to only each other.

Except that cyberboyfriend thing-.

I really don't care what others think or say- I know who I am- who loves me just the way I am- you must meet Mr.bpr- he is a God send, honestly. I told him he's my knight in shining armor. He makes me feel like a princess. I don't deserve this-but I thank God.

Get ready for all the ones who don't have a clue of what we are talking about- I think. they will come prowling around.

Do we care?

We dated for 2 years and our Ann.is Aug 2,1980. He lived in my home town for a little over 2 years, I was 20 when we married- if he did not take another job in another state we would have waited to marry- I got to see him everyday anyway and spend time with him. Now I think 20 is so so young.

I do hope my son waits until he's 30, but you know they do what they want once they leave your house regardless of what we say- I do pray this- your more mature etc.

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