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You know, I was just reminded of how angry it makes me that because SO MANY people want to "take" the government for every thing they can. My husband and I have a TEMPORARY struggle (he hurt his back at work and now we are on Workman's Comp and they don't add in overtime or bonuses, which is what kept us afloat) and because of this temporary issue, we may lose our home, our bills are so far behind that they may cut off our power and WE CAN'T EVEN GET HELP!!! WE CAN'T GET HELP! I have to choose every month whether I buy my baby diapers and food for our family or if we have power. The only "extra" we have is the internet, and the only reason we have the internet is because we have internet phone, and if we didn't have internet phone, we wouldn't have ANY phone, and I don't think that's safe with a baby. And the GOVERNMENT WON'T HELP US. What is wrong with this picture?!?! I am so sick of those people driving brand new Escalades on their way to pick up their food stamps, while I'm driving a paid for '97 Honda (thanks, Grandma, it was in her will, otherwise, I wouldn't even have that!) that I can't even get serviced because that would cost me $20.00 that I just don't have because I have to buy diapers and food for my family! I could pay my bills, and starve my family, while the single parent, (I'm SOOO sorry I actually married my baby's daddy!) has no problems whatsoever getting help whether they need it or not! I'M SICK OF IT and nobody is doing an damn thing to help me. Thanks Georgia, for punishing me for wanting to RAISE my own child, and for being married to my son's father, who is a damn VET. Thanks everyone who is making me pay for an unforeseen accident that has taken over a YEAR to deal with, and is still nowhere near being dealt with completely. Thanks so very much. I'm an ANGRY MOTHER.

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Submitted by TonyF on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 8:09am.

Your first (of many) mistakes was being born white, then you decided to abide by the laws of decency and morality, then you had the NERVE to actually marry the "baby daddy". I am appalled at your apparent respect for yourself and family. You should be drawn and quartered!

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Submitted by SouthernBelle on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 11:26pm.

Blame my parents! Isn't that what the kids are doing now?!

SouthernBelle, GRACE is a VIRTUE

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Submitted by eodnnaenaj1 on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 8:44am.

Your first phrase, how very true, been there and saw that for a fact. Many of us who have been through these sorts of trials already HAVE been drawn and quartered . . .certainly feels that way.

It is interesting to me that consumer advisors suggest that when hard times arise the first thing to do is contact your creditors to explain and try to work something out, LOL, what a joke!!! When you contact creditors to explain, seems like they just double up on charging you, badgering you, late fees, finance fees, etc. etc. etc.

I do pray that miracles begin to fall upon so many who are financially challenged, working hard every day just to survive, we're not talking thrive, but survive. Tis so very sad in this day and age, in one of the richest countries in the world that honest hard working folk must live like this.

I understand hurricane victims, and all sorts of victims around the world; and it's very noble that organizations "send" help to them; however, I remain amazed that these very same organizations can't help their next door neighbor. I'm just shaking my head . . .somehow I don't understand.

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Submitted by TonyF on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 9:47am.

my meaning wasn't missed. It's a shame when all you can do still isn't enough and noone seems to care. Belle, I imagine this is how a drowning person feels, "I'll just keep treading water (paying as best I can, working as hard as possible) and someone will come along and save me". Too bad the lifeguards can't help for treating all the sunburn victims who partied a little too much or never learned responsibility. I hope all works out, and I know it seems sometimes like the world is against you, it's not, the world couldn't care less about us because we're trying to do it by ourselves the way it was meant to be. Keep your chin up and one day you'll look back and realize you're a better person for surviving.
With much respect and empathy, Tony
(thanks eod)

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Submitted by SouthernBelle on Thu, 01/18/2007 - 9:28pm.

I agree with what you said. I was once told (I refuse to say what county but it starts with a C and its in Georgia) that if I WAS, in fact a different color, I would have far less trouble getting help. ALSO, I was told that if I sold everything I owned (NOT MUCH!) and spent the money (like someone else who posted about their own child) I MIGHT be able to get some kind of help, but she couldn't tell me how much until it was done! WTF?!?! (SORRY) I'm just so sorry that my ancestor's had NOTHING to do with slavery and I owe others NOTHING for that...I'm sorry I'm white, I'm sorry I was raised well, and I'm sorry that my parents took the time to teach me that it was not acceptable to sleep around and have 5 kids by the time I'm 24. Sorry, I have to be so cynical about all this because THAT is what the world has made me. Man, I miss being wide-eyed and naive. I will work SO hard to make sure my child stays that way as long as possible. My parents did that for me, and I'll do that for my son. ANYWAY, I'll just step off my soapbox and say that I really really appreciate all you've said, at least I know I'm not being self-centered, or obnoxious and I'm not alone in my opinions. I reall appreciate that.

SouthernBelle, GRACE is a VIRTUE

Submitted by head_ragg on Wed, 01/17/2007 - 9:18pm.

your work yourself silly, to pay the bills, put your kid in a preschool that you can't afford, but do anyway...can't pay your bills. I can remember when I had the money to look for clothes for myself in a 2nd hand shop! That was a big advance for me....before I could only afford to buy my child's clothes and toys there... then get in line behind someone dressed to kill in Publix who is paying for everything with WICS [food stamps]...Some honest people work and support prob 3 families...but are drowning because of the weight on their back of deadbeats...the people charity was meant for never receive it...blame the politicians...they pander to the dead beats...cause their vote counts as much as yours....My heart goes out to you...a lot of prayers and luck saved me.....I hope the same for you...it is so unfair...

Submitted by head_ragg on Wed, 01/17/2007 - 9:25pm.

you are white! me too....you get nothing!

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Submitted by SouthernBelle on Tue, 01/16/2007 - 7:33pm.

Thank you all, I guess I'm feeling a little disgruntled, to say the least. I just had to call the mortgage company again. They are the worst. The first guy hung up on me, thanks a lot. The second lady told me two things: "Its not my problem" and "I don't care what your situation is" She was very helpful. I appreciate all your kind words and sentiments. And most of what you've said is sadly true. My son is on the new Georgia Healthy Families program, so he's covered for insurance, and our pediatrician actually cares more about treated patients than the paycheck, so even when we didn't have coverage, she saw our baby. She also gives me little tips and small checkups every time we go. Thank God for the few people who care more about their jobs than their paychecks! I know I'm not at all alone in our situation, but I've got more bills to pay than I have money to hand out... sorry for the rant, and I'm sorry that I'm not alone. I wish nobody had to deal with all this stuff. Here's something I just don't understand: if Karma really works, than WHY am I having such a hard time? I actually gave food to the people standing at the stoplights in Atlanta! I am so far from selfish its not even funny, and I can't even...nevermind. THERE IS A PLAN. I think... Thanks to all of you.
SouthernBelle, GRACE is a VIRTUE

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Submitted by Basmati on Mon, 02/05/2007 - 8:08pm.

President George W. Bush sent his budget to Capitol Hill today.

He proposes cutting $12 Billion dollars from Medicaid, specifically the health insurance on needy and at-risk children.


Georgia Healthy Families is funded with Medicaid dollars.

Gotta pay for those tax cuts for the richest 1% somehow!

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Submitted by muddle on Tue, 01/16/2007 - 10:14am.

It is indeed frustrating that so much of the assistance goes to people who are financially reckless and irresponsible.

My daughter and son-in-law received some aid for a while when he was going to school full time at the University of Montana. I believe it was Medicaid (does that makes sense?), so that the two kids could see doctors.

They only had one car--an older two-door Civic--and I wanted to help, so I gave them our Honda Passport free and clear. They needed a second car as she was stranded with the kids when he was delivering pizzas in the Civic. And, besides, it was rough on my daughter trying to transport two small children in the back seat of a small two door.

My daughter is an honest girl, so next time she was in, she added the vehicle as an "asset" on one of the forms. They immediately cancelled the assistance because her assets were over the maximum.
The lady in the office told her the only way she could have the aid reinstated would be to sell the car and spend the money--not bank it. Doesn't this encourage recklessness and irresponsibility?

So they could have sold their much needed vehicle and bought, say, a giant plasma TV or a hot tub or some other superfluous item, and they would have been OK. So I guess I wound up hurting rather than helping.

I was so upset I called the supervisor at the Montana office and asked who in their right mind would set a policy like that. I noted that this was a family that needed the help only because of the temporary sacrifice in order to launch a career that did not involve standing on a doorstep with a stack of pizzas. I implied, of course, that many people receiving aid do not care to move ahead--so long as they get freebies.

She hinted that people sometimes have vehicles titled in someone else's name (so that I might put it back into mine) so that it doesn't appear as an asset. So here was a bit of advice to be dishonest.

Then...THEN...she responded that everyone receiving assistance is striving to move ahead. Do you believe that?

I'd sure like to help. Your plight sounds familiar. Both of my daughters have kids, and their families are still struggling financially as their husbands are still trying to get on their feet. We try to help them pay their bills every month. I don't know what they would do if we weren't in a position to help out. It's really, really tough on young families these days.


My grandson at 22 weeks, via live 3D ultrasound.

Submitted by skyspy on Mon, 01/15/2007 - 9:54pm.

This church has a beautiful ministry, that helps families in need. They help with food clothes and furniture. I'm not sure where the warehouse is, they just moved to a bigger space. Call this church, and ask where it is. These people are genuine, and they will help you!!!

I wish your husband a speedy recovery. I have had a back and neck injury myself, it's not fun, but he will get through this.

Best of luck

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Submitted by SouthernBelle on Mon, 01/15/2007 - 10:24pm.

I am familiar with Dogwood Church, but our need is mainly monetary, and most places won't help us because of that. We have furniture, we buy cheap food, and stick to a budget; however, when Workman's Comp doesn't pay on time, if at all without a phone call, we get behind, and when we get behind, we can't just catch up because of the fees associated with our mortgage. Our mortgage payment is $731, but with all the fees (daily fees) we just won't be able to catch up without a miracle. We would like to be able to get out of this house, but we would have to rent another one, which would cost us more than our mortgage, and makes no sense at all. Buying or refinancing isn't an option simply because of the Workman's Comp situation, no lender will touch us with that on us at the moment. I'm just really mad right now. I'm sick of funerals, and Workman's Comp, and mortgage companies, and all this MESS. I guess I'm just mad, and sad, and frustrated. Thank you for your well wishes, we could use them, Lord knows...I know he, we, all of us will get through this, I just wish it could be a little less scarred.

SouthernBelle, GRACE is a VIRTUE

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Submitted by eodnnaenaj1 on Tue, 01/16/2007 - 9:25am.

I can soooooo relate to what you are saying, and my thoughts and prayers will be with you, as I have no suggestions for you. While my situation is not health related, but a result of re-organization, I too have been down and out for several years now. Sad to say, but you are very correct in saying NO ONE is willing help. It is so very sad to have to decide between eating or paying bills, while living in one of the most well-to-do counties in Georgia; with many organizations, ministeries, etc. who claim to care and to help. If I were to name the major organizations I have contacted you would be very surprised, this is such a sad commentary on these organizations. When I think of the good people who have assured me they would help . . .
At a point in life when I should be looking at retirement, I go to work everyday, pay at my bills, but the more I pay the further behind I get; with the finance charges, late fees, I'm not paying bills, just throwing money at them, hoping to keep the wolves away.
This is not meant to be a BMW (bellyaching/moaning/whining) post, but simply to let you know I know what you are facing, and my moral support and thoughts are with you. Surely there must be a pony in here somewhere (if you've ever heard that story)

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