Gay “marriage” fantasy

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You really can’t have “gay marriage,” you know, irrespective of what a court or a legislature may say.

You can have something some people call gay marriage because to them the idea sounds worthy and necessary, but to say a thing is other than it is, is to stand reality on its head, hoping to shake out its pockets.

Such is the supposed effect of the Iowa Supreme Court’s declaration last week that gays and heterosexuals enjoy equal rights to marital bliss. Nope. They don’t and won’t, even as liberal Vermont follows Iowa’s lead.

The human race — sorry ladies, sorry gents — understands marriage as a compact reinforcing social survival and projection. It has always been so. It will always be so, even if every state Supreme Court pretended to declare that what isn’t suddenly is. Life does not work in this manner.

The supposed redefinition of the Great Institution is an outgrowth of modern hubris and disjointed individualism. “What I say goes!” has become our national philosophy since the 1960s. One appreciates the First Amendment right to make such a claim. Nonetheless, no such boast actually binds unless it corresponds with the way things are at the deepest level, human as well as divine. Surface things can change. Not the deep things, among them human existence.

A marriage — a real one — brings together man and woman for mutual society and comfort, but also, more deeply, for the long generational journey to the future. Marriage, as historically defined, across all religious and non-religious demarcations, is about children — which is why a marriage in which the couple deliberately repudiates childbearing is so odd a thing, to put the matter as generously as possible.

A gay “marriage” (never mind whether or not the couple tries to adopt) is definitionally sterile — barren for the purpose of extending the generations for purposes vaster than any two people, (including people of opposite sexes), can envision.

Current legal prohibitions pertaining to something called “gay marriage” don’t address the condition called homosexuality or lesbianism. A lesbian or homosexual couple is free to do pretty much as they like, so long as it doesn’t “like” too much the notion of remaking other, older ideas about institutions made, conspicuously, for others. Marriage, for instance.

True, marriage isn’t the only way to get at childbirth and propagation. There’s also the ancient practice called illegitimacy — in which trap, by recent count, 40 percent of American babies are caught. It’s a lousy, defective means of propagation, with its widely recognized potential for enhancing child abuse and psychological disorientation.

Far, far better is marriage, with all those imperfections that flow from the participation of imperfect humans. Hence the necessity of shooing away traditional marriage’s derogators and outright enemies — who include, accidentally or otherwise, the seven justices of Iowa’s Supreme Court. These learned folk tell us earnestly that the right to “equal protection of the law” necessitates a makeover of marriage. And so, by golly, get with it, you cretins! Be it ordered that ...

One can say without too much fear of contradiction that people who set themselves up as the sovereign arbiters of reality are — would “nutty” be the word?

The Iowa court’s decision in the gay marriage case is pure nonsense. Which isn’t to say that nonsense fails to command plaudits and excite warnings to others to “keep your distance.”

We’re reminded again — as with Roe v. Wade, the worst decision in the history of human jurisprudence — of the reasons judges should generally step back from making social policy. For one thing, a judicial opinion can mislead viewers into supposing that, well, sophisticated judges wouldn’t say things that weren’t so. Would they?

Of course they would. They just got through doing it in Iowa, and now the basketball they tossed in the air has to be wrestled for, fought over, contested: not merely in Iowa, but everywhere Americans esteem reality over ideological fantasy and bloviation.

A great age, ours. Say this for it anyway: We never nod off.

[William Murchison is the author of “Mortal Follies: Episcopalians and the Crisis of Mainline Christianity.” He is a senior fellow of the Texas Public Policy Foundation.] COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.

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Submitted by muddle on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 1:52pm.

There is a scene in Weird Al Yankovic’s 80s film, UHF, in which he plays a talk show host. He pushes a microphone into the face of an audience member and says, “Sex with furniture: what do you think?” It is a laughable parody of the outrageous topics of such programming.

But some people are not laughing. Have you heard of “objectum sexuality,” or “OS”? Objectum sexuals are people who fancy themselves as having romantic, possibly even sexual, relations with inanimate objects.

Good Morning America recently featured a story about “OS”, which included an interview with a woman by the name of Erika Eiffel. Eiffel is her married name for, you see, she is the blushing bride of the Eiffel Tower. That’s right: she considers herself married to the Eiffel Tower, and even had a “commitment ceremony” in which vows were made, though, presumably, not exchanged. “Her structure is just amazing. You know, she's got subtle, subtle curves, you know,” Ms. Eiffel said of her new significant other. One wonders, though, about the depth of Ms. Eiffel’s devotion, for she has something of a roving eye. "The Berlin Wall is a masterpiece. I can feel how much he yearns to be loved," she said. She also confesses an amorous attraction to an F-15 fighter jet—which got her (but not the jet) booted from the Air Force. "I'd like to get to know this jet. Kind of like a guy goes to a bar and he sees a really nice-looking girl and he, he wants to go sit next to her, buy her a drink and get to know her more. Well, I kind of felt that way about the F-15."

Alas, the new bride is a wild donkey in heat, sniffing the winds in her passion.

You might think this is just plain crazy. (Ms. Eiffel does hail from San Francisco, after all.) But Amy Marsh, who is a certified “sexologist,” disagrees. Marsh maintains that OS is not a disorder of any sort, but is “possibly a new sexual orientation.” In support of this suggestion, she quotes a member of a small online community of objectum sexuals describing “people with OS.” “They're real, they're complex, and they are no less and no more of value than other romantic relationships.” Marsh comments, “I'm finding they're very happy, and they don't want to change.”

As for Ms. Eiffel, she tells a familiar tale. She insists that she did not choose to love inanimate objects, “but was born that way.” She spent her childhood in the closet. She realized that she was “different,” but “I just went to school and pretended I was like everybody else.” This was despite the fact that she happened to be dating a bridge at the time.

Perhaps the time has finally come for our society to become more open to alternative orientations. "Marriage" should thus be defined as "whatever someone is willing to say marriage is." (Heck, we've done the same thing for art so that a particular arrangement of fecal matter qualifies.) Why should the heteros and homos enjoy marital bliss with societal blessings when others, born of different orientations and desires, are left out or "disenfranchised," if you will?

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Submitted by sniffles5 on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 2:03pm.

I think Andrew Sullivan defined "marriage" very eloquently when he described it as
"The essential meaning of contemporary marriage is a lifetime legal commitment between two unrelated, consenting adults to take responsibility for each other (and their children, if any) and to share their lives and home together."

LINK

(He also does an admirable job of demolishing the "traditions" of marriage)


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Submitted by muddle on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 4:12pm.

Im not sure that it is meaningful to speak of "the essential meaning of contemporary marriage." Does this not reduce to "how one proper subset of contemporary culture wishes to understand marriage"?

It sounds reasonable and all to speak of "two, unrelated, consenting adults...." But I strongly suspect that the emphasis upon couples is a vestige of heterosexual unions that form the basis of families: mom, dad and baby. The importance and function of monogamous and lifelong commitment is animated by the natural connection found between marriage and family. Remove that connection--as is done in gay relations--and it would seem to be no holds barred (if you'll pardon a possible pun). Once the traditional understanding of marriage is abandoned, I can see no principled reason for thinking of it as a sort of mirror image of the ideal heterosexual relationship--except for differences in the plumbing. So far as I can tell, the only arguments for the validity of homosexuality begin with the observation that certain desires are present, that they were never consciously chosen, and that, therefore, they must be valid (This was precisely how the pseudo-scientist Kinsey reasoned, supposing that any observed behavior or preference was as valid as any other, since all are manifestations of a diverse human repertoire.) At any rate, as we see with "OS"--the new sexual orientation--precisely the same claims are made.

Nothing here amounts to a "slippery slope argument," for there is a difference between asserting "If you allow A then B is inevitable" and observing that any argument that would justify A would also, in principle, justify B. Perhaps three is nothing inevitable about the emergence of the dreaded B--whatever it is. But the reasons may, nevertheless, be arbitrary and idiosyncratic.

Actually, noting, as one of these columnists does, that an attempt to redefine marriage to include homosexuality is a radical departure from all historical and cultural precedent does not constitute hatred for homosexuals. Neither is there cultural precedent for people, with any regularity, marrying bridges and monuments. Though there are clear attempts to shift the burden of proof onto the "traditionalists," it is is squarely upon those who would seek to swerve from both natural and cultural history to accomodate those who have, of late, become particularly noisy and insistent.

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Jeeves to the Rescue


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Submitted by sniffles5 on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 8:48pm.

Im not sure that it is meaningful to speak of "the essential meaning of contemporary marriage." Does this not reduce to "how one proper subset of contemporary culture wishes to understand marriage"?

It may or may not reduce to your "proper subset" argument, but I am unclear as to what impact it has if it does. Are you implying that a proper subset does not necessarily reflect the views of the majority?

I agree with you that the traditional nuclear family has been husband, wife and baby. That is an important....probably THE most important function of a marriage. By the same token, though, it is not the exclusive foundation for a marriage. If we were to judge "successful marriages" by that yardstick, then childless couples would be judged as "failures" due to infertility.

In doing some reading about the history of marriage, I'm more convinced that "marriage" is defined largely within the context of the times. Formal betrothals among commoners is a relatively new concept within the overall history of man. As Sullivan pointed out, social norms once permitted arranged marriages, marriages to some as young as ten years of age, royal bloodlines inbreeding, prohibiting non-whites from marriage, etc. In my own lifetime I've seen mixed-race marriage bans removed from lawbooks.

I think Sullivan has come up with a very defensible "current" interpretation of marriage. Your own tongue-in-cheek (hopefully) "OS" scenario fails the four-part test, as it only passes two of the four requirements: two (check) unrelated (check) consenting (???) adults (fail).

I think it's a subjective call as to whether recognizing gay unions constitutes a "radical" departure from the "norm". If we define "history" somewhat myopically as beginning with the founding of America in 1776, I suppose you could present a valid case. The history of marriage, though, along with it's cultural definition, predates America by many hundreds if not a thousand or so years, and has changed to keep up with the times.


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Submitted by sniffles5 on Fri, 04/10/2009 - 5:08am.

As predictable as the tides, William Murchison weighs in on the State of Marriage in America every single time "gay marriage" is in the news (this is the third time in the past 9 months).

Homo Hatin' Bill goes a bit farther this time....marriage, he claims, "is about children".

Who knew?

So, for all you couples out there who are unable to have children, keep in mind that as far as Homo Hatin' Bill is concerned, your marriage is a sham.

p.s. the greatest irony in being lectured on the sanctity of marriage by William Murchison is the fact that he spent the first 20 years of his second marriage lusting after another woman (he wrote a column about it). But he's over that now and we're supposed to applaud him for his newfound respect for marriage.


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