If you were told you only had six months to live

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If you were told you only had six months to live how would you spend your remaining time?

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Submitted by Main Stream on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 11:30pm.

I've been thinking a lot about your question since you posted it the other day. People in general get so caught up in their everyday lives that it becomes difficult to just slow down and appreciate how valuable life really is. I've grown to realize that it is the details in life that are most precious, like teaching my son how to skip rocks across a lake or hiking in the mountains with my daughter and pointing out new wildflowers. We all take so much for granted as we traverse the road of life and it is the little things that seem, to me, to be the most important and is what I would do more of if I was faced with knowing an end was near.

I read somewhere about a woman diagnosed with terminal cancer and she had maybe a year to live. She videotaped herself as if she were speaking to her children and spouse during important milestones in their future lives. For example, what she would say to her children on their wedding day, the birth of a child, even what she would say if they had a tough time in their life. She labeled each video so her kids and spouse could look at them when/if they arrived at that point in their own lives. I thought that would be an amazing gift to loved ones, to still have a part of their mother during a time when they may need her words and wisdom.

So, your original question made me think of how I would live each day, if I only had 6 months:

- speak kinder
- forgive
- watch every sunset
- find something positive out of every situation, no matter what is happening
- fall in love with my spouse...again
- make memories with my kids each day
- reconnect with anyone I had a "falling out" with
- take a trip to the one spot on earth that is most special to me (... a place called Timberline Lake)

My thoughts are with you and your family and please let us know if we can help in any way. There seems to be a lot of folks on here who feel the same.

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Submitted by wulfman on Thu, 07/24/2008 - 6:54am.

Nice to hear from you, I hope you guys are having a wonderful vacation.
There’s no right or wrong answer to my question.

There are several reasons that I posed that question to everyone. The main reason was to get everyone to slow down and think about what is most important in life. As some stated no one knows how long they have on this earth it could be days, months or hopefully years. I thought all the answers were heart felt and very good.

A few years a go Tim McGraw record a song titled “live like your dying” it was written by Craig Wiseman and Tim Nichols.
If you have never heard the song just look up the lyrics and read the words.
That song pretty much sums up my feelings. I consider myself fortunate to have had that opportunity.
My spirits are high and I look forward to tomorrow and many more days ahead.


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Submitted by Tug13 on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 12:31pm.

I would do most of the things the other bloggers said. If I can get this email thingy to work, I intend to keep a promise.

Remember, think positive. You are in my prayers.

Tug Smiling

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Submitted by wulfman on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 9:55pm.

Yes, it was somewhat of a rhetorical question.

It’s something most of us never think about until illness strikes and we are faced with the possibility of it being true.

These two little words “end stage” will strike fear into even the strongest of men.

But those words can be a blessing if you realize your greatest contribution to this world is the ones that you leave behind.

Live each day as it were your last.

Submitted by MYTMITE on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 10:32pm.

It is evident what type of person you are. Your children are blessed to have you for their parent. That is the greatest legacy anyone can leave. You know, this may sound trite, but none of us really know how long we have. That is why it is so important to make every day count and it seems you are well on your way to doing that. I wish you painless days, wonderful thoughts and memories and time enough to do the things that will make you happiest. I am glad I got to read the things you have posted here in the time I have been coming to this site. You seem to be someone I would have been honored to call my friend. My best to you, kind soul.

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Submitted by wulfman on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 10:58pm.

Thank you for the kind words.

I am sure that I am far from the perfect parent God knows I have made my share of mistakes. All of our children are grown and have left the nest and are doing well.

I was fortunate enough as they say to marry up. The Lady Wulf deserves the majority of the credit for how well our children turned out. She is one special lady I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have her by my side.

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Submitted by carbonunit52 on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:40pm.

I suppose I would keep doing what I have been doing, trying to capture the moment, because we do not exist in the past or the future. When I was young, the statement "You can't live forever" was a lot more rhetorical than it is for me now, decades later. I may have a bit of an advantage over most people with the "time left to live" issue. My mother passed away when I was seven years old, and my family brought me up to her casket to say goodbye. At that moment, I realized something that I can not put into words, other than to say, "Everything in this existence is really alright and we do not need to worry or be afraid".

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Submitted by Evil Elvis on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:16pm.

"My soul do not seek immortal life, but exhaust the realm of the possible" -- Pindar

Best to you, Wulf.

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Submitted by hutch866 on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:04pm.

What Cy said.

I yam what I yam....Popeye

Submitted by beauvighn on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 7:58pm.

I would make sure I had made my peace with God, first and foremost. Then I would thank him that I had at least one more College football season to watch.

I would get my affairs in order from memorial service and settling my estate. I would not tell those closest to me because I would not want every visit with my loved ones to be a sad affair. God Bless.

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Submitted by Cyclist on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 7:57pm.

We are here for you buddy!

Caution - The Surgeon General has determined that constant blogging is an addiction that can cause a sedentary life style.

Submitted by MYTMITE on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 7:51pm.

I would tell all my family members and my good friends how much I love them. Would thank them for all they have done for me, all the good times we had, the memories they helped me make. I would kiss often and hug as hard as possible. I would do those things that I had put off always thinking I had time. If health did not permit much travel, I would try to sit by the water (always so soothing and restful to me). I would watch the waves and ships and the birds diving for their food. I would read as many good books (reading is my all time vice--if reading could ever be considered a vice.) If possible, I would eat all the good food I could get my hands on while it still had flavor and aroma to me. No worrying about gaining weight, etc. I would ask my family and friends what they would want of my possessions and not be offended when they did not want anything! I would make sure there was no doubt in my family's mind about what kind of service I wanted, if I wanted a service, where I wanted my ashes spread if that was my wish. I would try my best to make sure there would be no reason for squabbling among those I left behind. But most of all I would tell everyone important to me how much I love them and appreciate them and remind them of all the good times--no matter how small or big. And I would kiss often and hug hard. God bless you.

Submitted by Bonkers on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 3:22am.

Good stuff. Better to do it now and all the time however, isn't it?

Some of those possessions would probably be wanted, however!

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Submitted by yardman5508 on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:13pm.

I would visit all my far-flung relatives (carrying my golfclubs and recumbent bike of course) traveling by car, take that cruise to Alaska I have been promising my wife we would take, visit my list of barbecue places I have wanted to visit, and spend alot of time with my kids, ending up on Myrtle Beach, SC where my wife and I met 30 years ago. Keep the faith.

Even a dead fish can go with the flow.

Submitted by MYTMITE on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 8:39pm.

I went on one two years ago and loved every second of it. It is such a wonderful, majestic place. I went on the seaplane ride to a nearby island where Rufus hummingbirds were as thick as you could possibly imagine. A young man who worked there told me they migrated from Mexico every year. Can you imagine that? We went to Denali Nat'l Park and saw all types of wildlife. One funny note: We were excited to see moose through our binoculars, then as we were pulling into the lodge after our trip, there stood this humongous moose just grazing on the trees next to the road. It didn't even look up as our bus passed. We got dressed for dinner, headed down the same road and that moose was still there chomping away.

The ship's captain took us very close to where the glaciers were calving--breaking away--it was something to see and to hear! Suddenly a huge one broke away and that ship was put into reverse and we got out of there pronto! The ship was great, the service great and it was a wonderful experience. Please don't put it off--who know what tomorrow brings.

Submitted by skyspy on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 7:33pm.

I hope you are doing well. Are you back from the other center you were going to go to?

I would call all of my friends and family spend as much time as possible with them. Give as many of my material things away to people who would want them.

Then I would do whatever made me the happiest: work on a painting, ride a good horse, watch the birds, fly a good plane, lay in the hammock with a good book, good music. and a good drink.....

Think about the times that you have been the happiest in your life, what made you happy and then get out and enjoy whatever it is.

Hang in there and let us know if we can do something for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Submitted by wulfman on Tue, 07/22/2008 - 10:37pm.


I’m back at home waiting on that telephone call from the doctor. I should hear something later in the week.

I remain in good spirits and look forward to tomorrow and hopefully many more days.

The lady Wulf has been by my side every step of the way and is taking great care of me.


Submitted by skyspy on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 7:41am.

Fingers crossed, I think we are all waiting for good news ahead for you.

You presented a very good question for all of us. Some of us might have even less than 6 months and not know it. We might only have today. Make everyday count.

You have a good attitude wulf, good for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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