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It's Your Day Mom

How do I begin to talk about my Mom- Mom does not live here anymore.

Nothing else matters today- my focus is to honor my loving Mom who on this day 3 years ago went to live in heaven.

Both my mom and sister had COPD- my sister's from the lifestyle she chose, my mom was born with problems with her lungs- I am gracious to God for letting me be her child. The list could go on forever what she taught me.

I think the big one is Compassion: be kind to one another:be a friend to someone who needs a friend. Help the people in need. Plus so much more.

Four months earlier my sister died from COPD she smoked- I saw what she went through. It broke my heart.

Mom did not smoke- it was her lung condition. It broke Mom's heart when my sister died.

The big thing is now it's so hard to say my Mom and sister passed away- I don't why- it's hard to say.

At Mom's funeral there were words to a song I love- the Pastor asked if any of us would like to speak- my husband is use to speaking in public- loved my Mom so much he couldn't, I couldn't - so the Pastor did.

My mom had COPD for 28 years- she was a fighter- she loved all of us and life- struggled to breath, in hospitals alot.

Then came the day Jesus took her to live with Him.

Here's the words to the song:

Our prayers have all been answered, I finally arrived
No one's in a hurry
There's no schedule to keep
We're all enjoying Jesus just sitting at His feet

Chorus:
If you could see me now I'm walking streets of gold
If you could see me now I'm standing strong and bold
If you could see me now, you'd know I've seen His face
If you could see me now you'd know the pain is erased
You wouldn't ever want me to leave this place.

My light and temporary trials have worked out for my good
To know it brought Him glory when I misunderstood
Though we've had our sorrow, they never compare
What Jesus has in store for us, no language can we share.

If you could see me now
I'm walking streets of gold, If you could see me not, I'm standing strong and bold
If you could see me now you'd know I've seen His face
If you could see me now, you;d know the pain has been erased
You wouldn't want me to leave this place.
If you could only see me now.

Also there are two songs that are so dear to me- for all of us this time comes in our life- these songs mean alot to me.

click With Hope Steven Curtis Chapman

One day I was driving Weaverville- Asheville area and I love this group - never did I notice this song until I was in the car alone- Thank you God.

click God And Time By Newsong

For me and I know right now so many others that have a loved one that has passed away- I need "God And Time"

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BPR

Submitted by Git Real on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 8:09pm.

There is not much I can say as I still have my parents to enjoy. The one thing I can say is for you to treasure the fact that your mom was redeemed and resurrected and is where she is. I fly a thousand miles next week to be with my folks and as I think of you and Muddle I will most definetly hold my mom and dad a bit tighter and bit longer than usual. My prayers are with you this evening and I ask that you would pray that my parents would make the proper decision that will allow them to one day join your mom and others of us.

Your mom is in the perfect place and I'll bet she's walking around with a grin impatiently tapping her feet waiting for you guys to join her one day. You know the impatience. The anxious waiting you experinence when someone you love is coming over for a visit and you think they are never going to get there. Until then, treasure her memory and influence while living life large in her honor.

Peace Sister! Smiling

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The Sissy And The Word Defined

Git

Submitted by BPR on Tue, 04/01/2008 - 6:58am.

Thank you so much for your kind word, they comfort me- you are right she is waiting for us- I know everyone goes through this, the pain in something you have never felt before- it's good I know God- I have "HOPE".

Yes, give you Mom and Dad bear hugs (it's working with 4 year old) when you see them.

My Dad is still alive, I have a brother and another sister alive- I thank God for all of them.

My father-in-law is in heaven, has been for 13 years- there are times my husband will loose it- a touching memory he thinks of -he was a SBC pastor and a school teacher. His church was a small church in N.C., I think the largest he has was around 200. He always said God called him to preach and he taught school for a living and he loved kids. I use to kid him and said but 7th and 8th grades. Are you sure? Smiling

I thank God for all that have responded and hope I can give some kind words when you need it the most. As I told the others I have some things of my Mom's this is a treasure I will keep.

God bless you!

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We Will Stand

Sky, Denise, Muddle, Cyclist, and Wulf

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 6:12pm.

Thank you for your suggesting comfort- I will read a book and I think I will plant one dogwood tree pink for my mom and one white for my sister. It will also be a reminder of your kind and caring words. Every time I look at them I will not only think of my mom and sister but of all of you!
God bless you!

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We Will Stand

BPR

Submitted by wulfman on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:54pm.

BPR,

May the Lord comfort you on this difficult day.

Wulf

Wulfman

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 6:00pm.

Thank you for your kind words- it means alot. God bless you.

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BPR, for you

Submitted by Denise Conner on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:30pm.

A beautiful tribute to your sister and mom.

"The Plan of the Master Weaver"

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11)

"I Measure Every Grief... by Emily Dickinson

How your mom lived her life and taught you to live yours:

"If I Can Stop One Heart from Breaking" by Emily Dickinson

If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.

"I Shall Not Pass This Way Again"

Through this toilsome world alas!
Once and only once I pass;
If a kindness I may show,
If a good deed I may do
For a suffering fellow man,
Let me do it while I can.
No delay, for it is plain
I shall not pass this way again! ~ unknown ~

Skyspy's grandmother was wise: "The secret to a happy living is in the giving." It never takes away all of the pain, but it helps, just as tears do. "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." May God give you peace and comfort. Smiling

Denise

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:50pm.

Thank you so much- I am going to print out everything and keep it for a keepsake of my Mom.

I have used a entire box of Kleenex- you have touched me as Sky and Muddle and Cyclist- God is a good God.

I needed this and I thank you- encouraging words

I am going to print everything everyone has said and when I feel low- at the moment it is daily.I miss them so much- I know they are happy free from pain and suffering- that part was the hardest- now it's gone. Thank you for reminding me. I will every ones response when I feel low- and use another box of Kleenex.

Thank you Denise-

Only God could know how hard it is for me to let go- and one of your poems talked about that- what a God send. I let my mom and sister go and then want them back out of my selfish reasons.

They can finally breath without struggling

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BPR, a good plan

Submitted by Denise Conner on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 6:13pm.

Selfish, maybe; a part of our humanity, definitely. Remember that Jesus wept over the death of his friend. Death was not part of God's original plan, and Christ is victorious over death.

You have taken account of [number and record] my wanderings;
Put my tears in Your bottle
Are they not in Your book? (Psalm 56:8)

But if there be no resurrection of the dead, then is Christ not risen:
And if Christ be not risen, then is our preaching vain, and your faith is also vain.

But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. (I Cor. 15)

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And God himself shall be with them, and be their God.

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. (Revelation 21)

Sky, Denise, Cyclist, Muddle and Wulf

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:58pm.

You don't know how you have touched my heart on such a hard day. My sweet husband buys me flowers- you gave me flowers with your words.

If you were here in person and my mom and sister were here and myself-everyone would get bear hugs.

It's a preschool thing. Smiling

This is a keepsake from all of you I will keep and treasure. I will print it and put it with my Mom's things I have of her's- they are my treasures of her.

I hope to be there for you when you need someone.

God bless all of you-

Thank you from my heart! You have touched mine.

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We Will Stand

BPR

Submitted by muddle on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:13pm.

I'm working on three years with my Dad (11/18/05). People have suggested that it takes at least two years to get through the grieving process. Maybe I delayed mine because of the cancer diagnosis just before and treatment for several months after his death. But I find that I can still be reduced to a sobbing child if I thumb through old photos of him and start reminiscing.

My wife's mom died of pancreatic cancer on December 30, 2001. She had not been feeling well through much of the year. She was diagnosed in August and then left us just after making it through Christmas with her family. We videotaped Christmas Day with her but have yet to watch the video. I think she made it through the holidays by sheer willpower and tried to distance the inevitable from that holiday as much as possible for the sake of her family.

It's hard every time the anniversary rolls around.

Have you read C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed? It is so insightful as he just nails the various emotions and doubts that arise in the grief process.

Muddle

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:27pm.

Thank you for your caring comments. Like you my husband lost his Dad 13 years ago- there are still times especially at holidays or when we go to their house and we have a meal and pray that my husband will loose it- my son was only 2- I wish he had known him. He will one day in heaven.

My son did get to know his grandmother for 10 years he will never forget her- or my sister. I just hope I can be half the mother she was to me. Words can not describe- by no means was she perfect- but I would say one of the sweetest, compassionate, caring, giving people you would know.

I haven't got through the grieving process, I guess with some it takes longer- I am sorry for your struggles, I know it's hard- I do care and will pray.

I haven't read C.S. Lewis book, A Grief Observed- he's a great author-thanks I will read it. My Mom loved to read- Sky suggested I do something she liked, she loved to read. So do I.

I am sorry for all your pain and hurt- I do care-

Thank you Muddle

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We Will Stand

BPR

Submitted by Cyclist on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:03pm.

My thoughts are with you.

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Cyclist

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:29pm.

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Thank you for caring. God bless you.

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BPR I Wish for You Sunshine

Submitted by skyspy on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 4:35pm.

Is this the anniversary of your mom's "going home" as some churches put it. Which is a good way to put it.

I'm sorry if today makes you sad. Just remember you are sad, but your mom and sister are doing great! No offense intended, but I'm sure they are better where they are, better than here. I know it is hard when you miss someone.

One way to honor them would be to make it a ritual to do something that was important to them, in memory of them. It will make you feel close to them.

My grandma was the only one of her group of lady friends who had a drivers license and could drive. She would drive all of her friends to the grocery store every week. I know it is pitifully small, but it was one small act of kindness that made her feel good. My grandma also had a favorite saying "the secret to a happy living is in the giving" Good words to live by.

Find comfort in something your mom enjoyed. No matter how small it is.

sky

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 4:54pm.

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The world would be a rainbow if more people were like you. Thanks for caring- my mom would have loved you. Thanks for the encouragement. It means more than you know. Smiling

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BPR

Submitted by skyspy on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 4:57pm.

I'm sorry that I guessed right and you are having a hard day. Think of your mom's favorite thing........

and then

DO IT !!!!

Chat later

sky

Submitted by BPR on Mon, 03/31/2008 - 5:14pm.

Thank you Sky- you helped me realize they can breath now without struggling to do it.

My mom loved alot of things - I will do it, so did my sister.

You have been so kind, I hope I can be there for you when you need someone. That is what my Mom would want.

I will chat later. Thank you so much- chat later!

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